Spring break on the NC coast

(Pssst... photos of the vacation in the Flickr badge to the left)


Taking a vacation with young children is not a vacation in the true sense; the word “vacation” conjures up feelings up rest and relaxation but if you put the word “family” before the word “vacation” you get a completely different feelings about the whole thing. Really, a family vacation for us is just moving our whole, crazy routine to a different location and calling it a success if we make it through without any casualties.

Recently we decided to uproot our family and temporarily relocate to a tiny, oceanfront condo about 3 hours away. The fact that we had to bring along so much stuff for Sam, including his beanbag, wheelchair and jog stroller, and were forced to climb over furniture and various children to move about the condo did not diminish our enthusiasm. Nor did we allow the strong winds, which picked up the sand and hurled millions of grainy bits at our exposed skin, to prevent us from enjoying the beach. And when Clara attempted to stick her head through the widely spaced bars of the balcony railing to peer down at the beach 3 stories below we simply put an end to family time on the balcony because, though the her head was just big enough to not fit through, she found the table and chairs perfect for climbing on to peer over the balcony rail.

Still, we were not discouraged and we took several little trips to surrounding towns to visit the various attractions. One of these trips included a visit to Wilmington where we toured the USS North Carolina Battleship. I’d never been on a battleship so I wasn’t sure what to expect. The boat was moored on the Cape Fear River and we crossed a bridge to board the top deck of the ship. I had Clara running free hoping she would tire soon and fall asleep in the backpack child carrier I had brought with us on board. But, see, being from California where everyone is afraid of lawsuits, we were used to the California standards of safety; if this battleship had been located in the Golden State we wouldn’t have been able to get within five feet of the boat’s edge. And, surely, there would have been a metal gate in front of a plexiglass barrier protecting us from falling down to the mesh netting that any good California company would have constructed below. But we’re in North Carolina now. And safety either just hasn’t caught on yet or there’s a lot more faith out here in people’s ability to take care of themselves. Because the only thing separating us from the murky waters far below was some low mesh fencing that began about a foot above the deck. And being much closer to the ground than an adult, a small child is surely going to see that whole foot as an incredible opportunity. There were also raised platforms on the ship that extended to the edge and if you stood up on the platform and walked to the edge like any self-respecting child would, then you only got protection from the top 2 feet of the mesh fence. So I started wondering how many little ones had gone over. There were lots of signs on deck about the battles and the number of men who had died on the ship back during the war. But I couldn’t find anything about tourist fatalities. I had already chased Clara away from edge several times and been over it in my mind how the whole tragic fall might go down and how I would have to jump in after her. Of course, I had no idea how deep the water was. If it was too shallow then we could get seriously injured in the fall. But if the water was too deep then there’d be no way I’d be able to find her in the muddy water.

About this time David and Jackson decided they wanted to explore the inner belly of the ship. Since Sam’s wheelchair could not go down I had decided to stay above deck with him and Clara. But Clara had other plans. The metal stairs leading down into the ship were narrow and almost completely vertical; in other words, they were treacherous. And to an adventurous toddler such objects of peril were irresistible. Unfortunately, she refused to go down without me. So down Jackson, Clara and I went into the ship, leaving David and Sam above, completely unaware of the extensive labyrinth we were entering. Clara was following her bliss up and down the metal stairs that were unbelievably abundant throughout while I held tightly to her hand and followed along. There were arrows with the word “tour” placed throughout the boat but at some spots there was more than one choice and not once did we see an exit sign. After about ½ of an hour it was becoming clear to me that this tour had no end and Clara was starting to get loopy as her naptime had long passed. Unfortunately, I had left the baby carrier above and was left with the options of either chasing her through the ship or carrying a squirming toddler up and down the dangerous stairs as we tried to fight our way through the other tourists back up to the surface. There were many dangerous areas where the floor was made of a metal grate with gapes and holes large enough to swallow up a wayward toddler. More horrifying was the possibility that one of Clara’s shoes might find its way down one of these holes and become lost forever because THAT was unimaginable to my little shoeophile.

Eventually we caught a glimpse of daylight and emerged from the steel maze to find David and Sam waiting for us above. Now in between freaking out about Clara’s safety and freaking out about being lost inside the ship I did take in enough of the tour to realize what a fascinating vessel it was and how interesting the lives of the men were who had served on it. So I urged David to leave the kids with me and go down to have a look. While we were talking I was trying to prevent Sam’s wheelchair from rolling away on the uneven deck and chase down Clara who was making a break for the side of the boat. I decided to put her in the carrier for safety and so she could catch a nap while David explored below.

By then I was feeling pretty good that we had averted all tragedy and I was heading up to the front of the ship. An older man sitting several feet away waved us over to have a look at something he apparently thought we should see. As I approached he pointed down over the boat where the water met some marsh land. I saw a blue heron there wading in the water but then the man said, “No, look there on land.” A few feet away I saw a very large, life-sized replica of an alligator. Except, see here again, I had forgotten we weren’t in California any more and that alligator was no statue. It was real and it had a name: Charlie. According to the sign on the ship that I had somehow missed while averting various perils, Charlie wasn’t the only alligator that lived in those waters. So then I had to recreate all those various rescue scenarios I had already worked out when I envisioned Clara going over the edge to include the possibility of a giant, hungry alligator. And from what I’ve learned watching nature shows once an alligator bites down on you he’s not letting go. After showing Jackson the alligator he informed me that, “Actually, Mom, if you shove your thumbs into the alligator’s eyes then it’ll let go.” So maybe there was still hope for little Clara.

As I relaxed a little with Clara safely in the carrier on my back, we explored the upper deck a bit more and Clara drifted off to sleep. Deciding to take in some more of the boat side scenery I walked over to the edge and stood looking out past Charlie. At this time one of Clara’s arms dropped loose by her side and the tiny baby doll that she had been carrying fell down from her arm. I watched as it tumbled under the mesh fence and stopped just inches short of falling into the murky waters below.

Mindy's lawn care guide to better living

So we had the new aide come this afternoon for Sam (more about that later) and I spent the first few hours going over stuff and that's when I realized how much stuff there really is to do for Sam. I mean, like seriously, I started wondering how anybody could possibly remember all this stuff. So I finally just shut up and figured it was going to be sink or swim for this new aide. So then she took him out for a walk and I was like, shit, now what do I do? I decided to take the other two outside and do some raking so we could mow before we leave on our trip since the grass has been growing so fast lately. But I'm out there with the wind blowing, leaves flying around feeling a little futile and realizing that raking takes a long time. What doesn't take as long is one of those smelly, obnoxiously loud leaf blowers that all our neighbors seem to use. Then I started thinking, if I had a leaf blower out here I wouldn't want the kids out with me 'cause it's too loud for their ears and I wouldn't be able to keep very good track of them. Also, I wouldn't be getting nearly as much exercise. And there was kind of a zen to the whole raking. Plus, the kids have their own smaller rakes to help.

I started realizing how *really* leaf blowers are actually more a waste of time because while I raked: 1) I enjoyed family time with my kids 2) I got exercise 3) it was peaceful and therapeutic. Basically I got more bang for my buck with the raking. Had I had a leaf blower out there I would have had to carve out separate time for the other 3 things and possibly spend money on such things as therapy for the stress inducing noise of the leaf blower. Or, if I paid someone to come do my yard, then David would have to work an extra job to afford it.

This can be applied to the mowing of the lawn too because while everyone else is paying to have their lawn mowed or sitting atop an expensive, loud ride-on mower, we're out there taking turns with our non-motorized push mower.

So either our lawn care routine is the cure to all of society's ills or I'm just trying to justify all the hard work.

And don't you even go there about how it would be better for all if we had no lawn at all because I know that, okay?!

Photos for peace - well, except for those first three

This is how we have fun on Friday nights around here.

Place the baby's pacifier inside the ball.


Watch as she struggles to get it out.


Laugh and say "how cute" when she fails at the impossible task and resigns to sucking on the pacifier through the ball.


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How to find an hour of peace: take 2 cranky kids, a bunch of toys, some bath bubbles and insert them into the bath tub. Now turn on the jets. Ahhh.... gives a whole new meaning to "Calgon, take me away."


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More tips on how to achieve peace: give your kids a shopping cart and access to the pantry.


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And this... this is what I get to crawl in to bed with at night. Those parents who maintain that a child's rightful nighttime place is in the crib are just missing the point completely.

Guess what's in Mindy's fridge?

So I made up some of that thickener for Sam's liquids and it works great. The thing is it's kind of a gross looking substance. The product sold in stores is a smooth, clear gel. But the stuff I made is neither smooth nor clear. It's gelatinous, all right, but it's kind of milky in color and resembles something that you most definitely would not want to put into your drink, if you know what I mean. And if you don't know what I mean then good for you... or maybe how sad. I'm not sure. Anyway, having that substance in our refrigerator is a nice companion to the frozen placenta from Clara's birth that we still keep in the freezer.

At this point some of you may be thinking, "But Clara was born in California and you're in North Carolina now... so how...?" And I'll tell you how. We packed up that placenta, put it on dry ice and shipped it across the country to a woman I barely knew here in NC. We labeled the contents as "meat." Very expensive meat. The woman to whom I shipped it was someone I had met on my visit to NC and we had spoken via the internet on a parenting type board. She had kind of offered when hearing about my placental dilemma, telling me she had a freezer in the garage with ample room for placentas and various body parts. So I took her up on the offer. When we arrived in NC I contacted her to try to pick it up but had a hard time getting a hold of her. Turns out her mom was in town so she had been busy but she later confessed that she had gotten a secret thrill by grossing her mom out with the information that she had another woman's placenta stored in her freezer.

Now you might be wondering why I've held on to the placenta for so long. And I'll tell you what I told the nice young gal at the UPS Store. "Let me lead off with this information: some people save the placenta to eat it. But not me. No, I just want to save it so I can bury it in my yard under a tree that we've planted. See? Not that weird in comparison."

But I have no explanation for that bottle of semen thickener in my fridge.

Victory!

Just got a call from Sam's case manager. We got Medicaid! What this means is that we have 4 hours a day of assistance during the week by a nurse and 32 hours per month of respite care. It also means that Sam's medications, Pediasure and diapers are paid for. It will also serve as supplemental insurance for any equipment Sam may need.

Maybe the universe isn't conspiring against our move to North Carolina after all.

Dysphagia is just a fancy way of saying "Oh crap!"

After all the stress was over with the Medicaid trial and the California tenant mess subsided everyone except David came down with a nasty cold that is still lingering on. Because we wouldn't want to actually enjoy the relative peace and calm. And I say relative because we're still under the influence of 3 mostly unreasonable little people, one of whom continually keeps us on our toes. Usually just when things seem to settle down with Sam he finds new ways to remind us that we can never let our guard down.

Last week Sam had an appointment for an upper GI and a modified barium swallow study. What these tests look for is not as important as what they found. First of all, Sam did awesome! That kid continues to amaze me. One of the things he had to do was drink some nasty, chalky liquid on command from a straw while lying on his back. Even I would have a hard time doing that but Sam did great. Anyway, they immediately saw that Sam refluxes (food and stomach acid come back up into his esophagus). We knew this but have never actually seen it on xray. The unfortunate thing is that Sam is already on the highest dose of reflux meds. The other finding is that Sam aspirates liquids (some liquid goes down his airway). This puts him at risk of pneumonia. Sam has had this test before as an infant and no aspiration was found so this was new to us. Fortunately, Sam has never had pneumonia.

We go back to the doctor soon for a follow-up and will hopefully get some better ideas for these issues. Right now we've altered his reflux med schedule a bit so he gets two smaller doses instead of one big one and we're thickening all of his liquids so they go down the right hole. The most convenient and least nasty thickening agent out there is very pricey and would cost us over $100 per month. A friend of mine suggested I try making my own thickening formula (other than using baby rice cereal which makes the liquid chunky and frothy - yuck! and can contribute to Sam's constipation issues). At first I thought, "yeah right like I have time to figure that out." But I was compelled to google and immediately found a recipe for that pricey gold standard of thickening agents. The main ingredient is xanthan gum which, turns out, is sold at Whole Foods for a fraction of the cost of the thickener itself.

So today's project is thickening agent production. Yay.

An update

The appeal hearing went well today. The hearing officer was a very nice, down to earth and intelligent woman who let us know at the end of the hearing that she would overturn the decision based on the reasons given. But this doesn't mean that Sam gets the services. All this means is that the basis of their denial was found to be false but they could still potentially find other reasons to deny the services.

This particular CAP program is intended to serve children with a medical diagnosis as opposed to a behavioral or developmental diagnosis. The basis of their argument was that Sam had a primary diagnosis of "mental retardation." Yeah, I know, some people haven't evolved in their nomenclature like the rest of us. But nowhere in any of the records that I sent them did it indicate anything but a primary diagnosis of Joubert Syndrome which is a brain malformation, thus a medical diagnosis. So we had to go in there and show that, despite the fact that Sam may be cognitively impaired (though he's never been tested because you try administering an IQ test to a child who is functionally blind, ataxic, hypotonic and cannot communicate due to his, oh, I don't know... SEVERELY MALFORMED BRAIN!), his primary diagnosis is still a medical one.

Now go back up and re-read my description about the hearing officer because as much as I would like to write the same about the nurse who was responsible for the original denial... well, I just can't. I had had the ill-fortune of conversing with her over the phone when we first received the denial back in November. And she was at the hearing today. She began the meeting first by asking the hearing officer if the children's presence would cause problems. We had brought Sam thinking that they might actually want to meet the child about which they're making the decision. We also brought Clara just 'cause she's so cute. Bonus points, you know? Fortunately, the hearing officer seemed to really like kids, had no problem with their presence and told the nurse as much.

So now we wait. And if we are denied again then Disability Rights North Carolina, a non-profit organization in Raleigh, has already told us they will send an attorney with us to court to fight it. But I really don't want to have to do that.

A plea for positive thoughts

Tomorrow at 11:30am (EST) we have an appeal hearing scheduled with North Carolina's Division of Social Services to request that they overturn their decision to deny Sam Medicaid benefits through their Community Alternatives Program. A Community Alternatives Program (CAP) is one which waves the parents' income and bases eligibility instead on the needs of the child; the goal is to offer support to the family so that the child's needs can be safely met in the home and the community, as opposed to in a hospital or institution. It's a win/win situation in that the parents do not have to shoulder the entire costly and physically and emotionally taxing load of caring for a child with a severe disability, and the state does not have to pay for the total care of a child who has been put into an institution because his parents couldn't handle the job, had become hopeless drug addicts just to cope, or were out whoring their bodies on the street just to cover the medical costs. See. Win/win.

But Sam was denied these services. Services that he received from a very similar program in California. Now anyone who has met Sam knows that his daily care is total and exhausting, that his inability to take care of even his most basic needs is due to a medical condition which affects several parts of his brain. According to the NC CAP program, Sam is exactly the type of child for which this program was intended. But, you see, the people who made the decision to deny him services have never actually met Sam. So, tomorrow, armed with 5 years worth of medical records, a nurse, a legal aide, letters from doctors, and our own statement we will go into the appeal hearing and formally introduce them to Samuel.

Wish us luck.

Yosemite Sam

You may remember reading about a road trip to Santa Cruz that I took with Jackson and Clara well over a year ago. During this time David took Sam to Yosemite. Separate vacations because, really, 3 kids and "fun family trip" is wishful thinking. Anyway, David began a blog about the trip shortly after returning.... and he just finished. Yes, that is how quickly projects get done around here if I leave it up to him. And I wouldn't be complaining were it not for the fact that he's been nagging me about linking to the blog ever since he finished it. Just to clarify: David and Sam went to Yosemite in September of 2006; David completed the blog entry about the trip on January 10, 2008 - 15 months later. Now can anyone explain why I'm being given grief for letting 2 weeks go by without mentioning the forgotten trip?

So here's the link to David's blog about the trip to Yosemite where he shows us some pretty pictures, talks about the new jog stroller he bought for the trip, and shows video of the jog stroller in action because that's what guys do... they obsess over new toys. What he doesn't talk about is how intense and lonely it was with just Sam because that's what women do... we obsess over feelings and emotions.

New photos posted

Cute kids in the leaves, in the snow and at Christmas.

And if you know of anyone who wants to buy a house in California I can hook you up with one. I'll refrain from commenting on our current situation with our tenant until we get a rational explanation... or really, any explanation at all.

The Stanley Milgram monitor

It's been a rough day. It's been a rough week. Things barely kept together starting to crumble. Maybe someday soon I'll have the energy to get into the details of all that is sinister in our lives right now. But not tonight. Because tonight I was reminded of how we've moved so far from appreciating the true beauty of having a special child like Sam.

Tonight, after nearly 8 months of negotiations and appeals Sam's new SleepSafe bed was finally delivered. It was delivered much later than we had scheduled it and the delivery driver was not allowed to help us carry it into the house. So out in the cold, dark night David and I went and carried each over-sized, unwieldy piece into the house while Clara screamed from inside. We had already moved Sam's old bed (aka the futon) out of his room to make room for the new bed. But with bedtime fast approaching there was no time to assemble the contraption so we placed Sam's play pad (aka memory foam) on the floor of his room to serve as a makeshift bed. During all the furniture moving I had had to unplug Sam's apnea monitor (yes, the kid still stops breathing at night) and this must have done something wonky to the insides because when David went to turn it on the alarm beeped and the lights flashed with wild abandon. In other words, it couldn't be trusted to monitor Sam's vital signs. I was up putting Clara to bed at this time so David fiddled with the monitor for awhile until I was able to find the manual for him. The manual told us which secret series of buttons to push and to which gods to offer our sacrifices. Once we got it working again David apologized to Sam for delaying his bedtime for so long but then told me that Sam actually seemed to be kind of amused by the whole beeping blunder. I joked to David that maybe the electrodes from the monitor that were attached to Sam's chest gave out a series of electric shocks during the whole fiasco and that's why Sam was "amused." And this is when David reminded me of how much more we used to be able to appreciate life with a special needs child. Because when we would go out in public with itty, bitty newborn Sam hooked up to the apnea monitor and well-intentioned people would ask what it was and how it worked we'd tell them that when Sam stopped breathing it delivered a series of electric shocks through those electrodes until he started breathing again. Most people had no other choice but to believe us. And we would get our amusement for the day at the expense of poor little Sam. Good times those were.

Four adults to 3 children was about the right ratio

My parents moved out on Monday. I think leaving after a 2 month stay qualifies as moving out, right? It really was a nice visit we had with them. The kids loved having their grandparents here. The first thing Jackson said when he got off the bus after school was "I wish Grammie and Gramps were still here." And Clara has walked into the room in which they stayed several times since they've left with her palms face-up by her ears uttering a questioning "hmmm?" sound. It's as if she's saying, "What has happened to those two magnificent people who used to live in this room for, oh, as far back as I can remember? They slept right here in this bed and they used to kiss me goodnight every night, greet me after my naps, take me outside for walks, share their blueberries with me in the mornings, eat lunch with me on the back porch, read me lots of books, sing ring around the rosie and fall down, hold my hand in the car, grant my endless requests for crushed ice from the freezer, humor me my 'need' for lotion and chapstick, and basically just adore me. But now this room is empty. Where did they go?"

Knowing my dad I'm kind of surprised he didn't construct a life-sized cardboard cut-out of himself to leave in the bedroom.

Happy 5th birthday, little man!

Thinking back on these last 5 years I just can't believe the roller coaster ride we've all been on. To celebrate we'll have chocolate cupcakes and mint chip ice cream (your favorite) with your friends at school. Later on we'll celebrate some more and open presents with Grammie and Gramps. Then, after you're all tucked into bed Daddy and I are going down to the local bar to drink... a lot.

Santa's call

Jackson received a call from Santa the other night. This was something I had arranged through our county’s parks and recreation department. Parks and rec provides you with an online form to fill out with information about your child and a time you’ll be home. Then on the chosen night a woman calls, identifying herself as an operator from the North Pole, and says she has Santa on the phone for your child.

A form must be filled out for each child; I only filled out one for Jackson that just happened to include the names and ages of his siblings. But after speaking to Jackson for a few minutes Santa asked if he could speak with Sam. Because, to Santa, Clara at the age of one and a half was too young to talk on the phone but, clearly, an almost 5 year old would be jumping at the chance. So dutifully, with phone in hand, Jackson began walking over to Sam, who was busy yelling and growling in typical Sam fashion. The impending scene began to play out in my head. Jackson holds the phone up to Sam’s ear, Santa begins a conversation and Sam growls deafeningly into the phone. The jolly old man, alarmed by the satanic sounds coming through the phone, clutches his chest while falling to the floor and we’ve just ruined Christmas for children everywhere.

“Wait, Jackson,” I call. “Just tell Santa that Sam can’t talk right now.”

Jackson does as he’s told and the conversation with Santa is wrapped up soon after.

When he’s off the phone Jackson excitedly recounts all the details of his chat with Santa.

“He also told me not to pick on Clara anymore.”

“Really,” I say trying to sound surprised since that was info I had included on the form.

“And to remember to pick my clothes up off the floor and put them in my hamper.”

“Huh. Well, it sounds like that Santa knows what he’s talking about.” I say.

“Yeah, it’s just too bad Sam couldn’t talk to him,” Jackson says with such a deep disappointment that I’m silenced for a few moments.

I pull him close to me for a hug and at that point I’m not sure who is comforting whom. I manage my own sadness over Sam pretty well on a daily basis, but I’m still not very good at managing my sadness over Jackson’s sadness of his brother and all the typical stuff that Sam misses out on. And one day soon Clara may start realizing that Sam has a much harder life than the rest of us and she will probably be sad, too. And this thought makes me very, very sad.

Soon after the event I realize what I should have done when Santa asked to speak to Sam. I should have gotten on the phone myself just to give Santa a heads up before letting him wish Sam a very merry Christmas. But I’m still learning how to be the parent of a special needs child. Next Christmas I’ll do better.

Genitals and religion

While changing Clara's poopy diaper tonight David was complaining about all the hidden crevices.

"Hold on, Clara. You've got poop all over your vagina."

"It's her vulva. The labia majora, labia minora... all the external stuff. The vagina is the internal part."

"Whatever. Can't we just call it a hoo-ha?"

Jackson peeks up from his reading...

"Wait! Did you just say 'minora'? That's what they light for Hanukkah."

Updates

Does that last post really say October 24th? Has it really been so long? I knew I was slacking but, sheesh. Actually I've joined a writing group here and so most of my creative energies have been going in to producing material for that. But tonight as I sit here at my laptop trying to work on a piece I've just not been feeling it. I couldn't come up with anything of quality. So I decided to come here. Because here I can get away with writing complete crap. But just so I can't be accused of writing about absolutely nothing I'll give a few updates:
We got our lawn put in. It's lovely. I'll post pics soon.
The leaves have all turned colors and are falling like crazy. It's lovely. I'll post pics soon.
I have a room of my own finally and it's all set up. It's where I'm sitting now. It's lovely. I'll post pics soon.
My parents are here visiting now through Christmas. It's lovely. I'll post pics soon.
Sam's been having what seem to be headaches so we had another brain MRI done just to be safe. Got the results. It's lovely. I'll post pics.... well, I actually could since I've got the images on disc, but nah... I'll spare you that one.

If all you know is sunny and beautiful, sunny and beautiful, sunny and beautiful

The drought has been a big topic of conversation here in NC. But today we got rain. Lots of glorious rain. And thunder and lightning. As I type this I'm sitting on the back porch listening to the rain pour down through the trees in my yard. Now that may seem like a perfectly normal way to appreciate mother nature but some of the people here take their appreciation to a whole other level. I've been reading some conversations on a local board about the recent rains and I've included some of the best for your reading pleasure:

okay..if your car needs washing .. here's what you do.
put a hat on - big garbage bag over your clothes...empty bucket with rag and little soap...and wash your car!! I just did it and it was really fun . . . and I'll have a clean car..
how's that for water conservation??
oh, and try not to get electrocuted.....

Beautiful Rain!
My Rain Barrel Runneth Over!

I went and reseeded the yard during a break in the storm... I hope the off & on rain over the next few days will keep the birds away from the seed, & that it stays warm enough for it to germinate, so I will keep my fingers crossed.



Being from Vegas , this is the first really real rain I have seen in almost 7 years and it is wonderful..simply wonderful . I didn't wash the car but I did put out a few buckets and an old aluminum washtub to catch the water , so that I can use it to water a bush that I started from a limb( dont laugh ) and will be putting in the ground soon.
My hometown is Gene Kelly's hometown and we know his famous song." I'm singing in the rain"

This isn't the only drought related discussion going on on this board. But being from California what has really surprised me is that when water is scarce here in NC people actually stop watering their lawns! They conserve. They save their bath water to water their plants. They shower every other day. There would be an uprising in southern California if such suggestions were even hinted at.

And then, when the first good rain comes, these people don't just resume normal activity... they celebrate! We weren't the only ones outside on our street tonight marveling at the storm. It's lovely to be amongst people who take the time to notice and appreciate the weather.

Back porch living

I'm typing this while sitting on my screened in back porch, drinking a beer and listening to the cicadas and crickets in the trees. This morning on the porch we enjoyed coffee and breakfast (which was brought over by our new neighbor...seriously) and watched as a family of deer traipsed through our yard.

How awesome is that?

Home, sweet home

We're all moved in. Nothing is unpacked or put away but all 3 kids are freshly bathed and tucked into their beds asleep. David and I are on the couch enjoying the complete quiet and a couple of beers. It's really lovely here. I'll try to put up some photos soon.

And someday we'll be able to afford to furnish it

This is our new house. We just closed on it yesterday despite the fact that our home in California is still on the market. We're still not sure what kind of fuzzy math the mortgage company used to determine that we could actually afford this place. But it's pretty, isn't it? The lawn will be put in in a few weeks once the weather cools off more.